A Letter to my 36 year old self (written on the last day as a 35).

A letter to my 36 year old self, written by my 35 and 364^th day self.

1.) Your birthday falls on the 31^st day of the year. It is the expiration of your driver’s license, good thing you renewed last October.  Be very aware of expiration dates, as your birthday falls on a holiday BE THANKFUL! Less budget needed for parties as the whole world is partying with you.

2.) You may still lament about the loss of friendships, but think of it this way, you can choose not to care and make space for new people in your life. More so, Peer pressure is something you don’t have to conform to.

3.) Trying to save money may actually cost you more money.  Having trouble with your multiple parties? Then hire more people to do the things you struggle with. The extra peso is worth the pain in your body now.

4.) Remember your bad hair days, and be thankful that you still have a lot of hair. In the meantime, you will be grateful for products that work and be sure to thank them over social media. Your similarly aged friends will appreciate it. Also, remember how you used to hate being mistaken for an applicant when you are a manager already, or being refused on casinos and movie houses? So  now you are flattered right?

6.) Try new things, splurge a little on experiences like vacations and dining experiences. They cannot be replaced. You can always make more money but you can’t always make experiences.

7.) Your past relationships make you who you are now. Be thankful for each and every one of them who chose to love you at that particular time. I am pretty sure they think about you every now and then and it helps to share the good vibes.

 8.) Forgive. Remember, the words uttered to you, is a reflection of themselves rather than of you. You don’t have to be friends with them to forgive them, but it makes you feel better.

9.) Forgive yourself. For past decisions, for past words uttered. Remember, your greatest mistake can be your greatest blessing.

10.) TJ is growing up, grow up with him. Savor each moment. You don’t actually mean you want him to go back to diapers right? In the end, raising him well is the best reward you can ever get. The best talking moments you have with him are actually right now when he is a small adult. You  get the best of both worlds in this point, when he is actually with you, yet makes his own decisions now.

11.) Remember to choose your battles carefully. You can never take back being mean to others.

12.) Doing a bike marathon is different from trying to take on as much work. Learn to delegate, learn to say no.

13.) Family is everything.

14.) Don’t forget sunscreen.

15.) Repair, re-use, organize. Pinterest is the bomb, use the ideas you found.

16.) Write as often as you can. The only award you ever got was for writing (and being a best employee writer) so make it worthwhile, it only has to be good for yourself.

17.) Don’t be afraid of techie stuff.

18.) Love is an open door. Applicable on 2015 J